My fiancee knows me very well, and he knows that I did not want him to pick out my engagement ring for me, because I am very particular and I really wanted to be able to pick it out for myself. I am going to have to wear it on my finger forever, and so I really wanted to be sure it was something that I would love and want to always wear. Its not that I don’t trust him or that I don’t like his taste, but it is that I know myself well enough to know that I don’t really know what I want. I can’t explain what I would want it to look like, I would just have to see it. I already know that I would just have to see one and then I would know that it was what I wanted. So he has always known that I was going to want to pick out my own ring, and he has always been okay with that. Which is great, because it would have been hard if he wasn’t okay with me wanting to pick out my own ring. But now that he is my fiancee, we have been heading out to look at jewelry stores and engagement rings for the last few weekends. I have found several that I liked, but they just weren’t the one. I am a bit neurotic about it actually, and I fully recognize and accept that fact. But I just know that once I find it, it will be perfect and I’ll know that it is the one. For the actual proposal, since he did it over dinner in a public place, he did have a ring, but it wasn’t the ring. He just used a ring that I already have and already wear all the time. He had snatched it from my jewelry case and put it in a little box. Then he surprised me with the serious question, and when I accepted he pulled out the box and put the ring on my finger. Everyone around us clapped, so it would have been weird to see happen if there was no ring. People would have wondered why he proposed without an engagement ring. But now that we are planning the wedding and all that, I need to find the wedding ring and the engagement ring, which seems like a lot to have to look for. I guess if I were to find them in a set, that would be the best option. But I’ve been looking at heirloom pieces and other sorts of things, so it is unlikely that I would find such a set. I may end up just finding one ring and using that for both, which would be great and really would be okay with both of us. Its just that the pressure is on to find something, and so I keep heading out and looking, certain that I am someday going to find something that will be perfect. I can’t wait, because I really want to wear a ring.
I never thought I would see the day that my husband went ahead and had the braces put on his teeth. He has been avoiding it for most of his life, but now that our two children need them, he has finally decided to take the plunge and do it with them. They don’t know that he already needed them, they just think that he is doing it so that they don’t have to do it alone. Which really is a wonderful thing for him to do for them. Both of the children really didn’t want to get the braces, and they really fought us on it. They were afraid that no one would like them any more, that people would laugh at them and they would not be able to smile in class from here on out. They just thought that they would be bullied at school because they thought that braces weren’t for the cool kids. But dad and I did our best to convince them that wasn’t the case, and that most people have to get braces, and that it makes their teeth much more perfect and they will thank us later and be happy about doing it when they have straight teeth. But when we were at our whits end and had run out of arguments, my husband realized that if he did it, then the kids would do it too. They were looking to him for a reaction on braces, and they knew that he had always avoided them. Of course, none of those things they were afraid of were in any way true, and braces aren’t painful and they are hardly even noticed by other people. It was just a fear that they had. So, my husband went in to the orthodontist office and had the braces put on his teeth, and he told him that it should be the same schedule as the kids. They were so surprised, they didn’t know how to react. Really their only option was to go ahead and do what the orthodontist suggested and get braces. So now they all have them, and they are all realizing that it really isn’t any different with them than it was without them. Life is the same, and their teeth are being fixed in the process. They will no longer have to deal with crooked front teeth, and the roots of their teeth are going to grow in straight so they won’t have to worry about any ill effects from that either. In a year or two, their peers at school will still be getting braces put on and they will be done with it forever, they will have fixed teeth. And my husband will finally have a straight smile as well, one that he has avoided for all these years. But it was so great that he did, because now he can share this with his kids and they have something that has really bonded them together, their aversion to and their need for braces.